Hello again. Well this is probably the second week I have been doing this.  One thing I have noticed so far is many woman seem to be copy/paste oriented. I'm not even sure anyone is reading my profile. Maybe it's just my good looks. :)

Anyway, it seems only fair for me to create my own templates I suppose.  It sure would save me a lot of time typing. What follows is a real email I am sending today. It's too bad this woman doesn't play piano. I'm scared she might be one of those "too pretty" people. Maybe I'm worng. Maybe she plays piano but just didn't mention it. Maybe she doesn't play anything but is the love of my life and I just need to be patient to recognize our commonalities. I remain open to all possibilities; hopeful.  

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Hello XXXXXXX:

Thank you for writing me.  I’m quite happy to receive your email, even though it is not actually addressed to me.  I read your disclaimers and they sound reasonable.  For the record, I don’t think I have ever sent you an email because my criterion is not only beauty.  I have been trying very hard to meet a pianist or a woman that shares common interests.  If I were looking for only the prettiest girl I would emailed you long ago. That is a compliment by the way. Too bad you don’t play piano.  That would make up for everything now and in the future. ;)

 My thoughts are as follows.

Re: I am Chinese and I'm much younger than you. In my culture this is not a problem (it's actually normal), but it is my understanding that this may cause problems for you in America.

Why would you being younger than me cause problems in America?  I have been working my whole life, educating myself diligently, and saving to afford the one woman in my life a good life.  Maybe I am different than most men.  All I expect is open, honest communication.  The real problem, I would think, is that of subservience (sorry if I am being stereotypical).  I am first generation America and although I am American I see my cousins treating their wives as inferior beings at times. In light of this, I only hope the woman I am with has the courage to be herself and fight with me a little bit when I’m wrong to help me make a better choice.  I can easily make all the decisions but they probably wouldn’t all be the best ones.  I hope for an equal partner in life in this regard.

Re: I do speak, read, and write English but I often can't communicate more complex thoughts effectively. . .

As far as communicating more complex thoughts effectively; this could be a problem.  I seek an independent educated woman and would accept you if I knew in my heart you were willing to improve yourself on an ongoing basis as I do.  I learn new things every day and in time complexity melts away into simplicity.  In other words, I would be quite content with any woman offering common interests as long as I know she enjoys learning as a lifelong process.  I worry that in 5 to 10 years’ time we would be bored of one another.  The answer is in your heart and the balance we apply to life.  Please think about it. After all, time is on your side.

Maybe we can talk about fun things now that we have the ground rules out of the way.  I realize my words might sound a little intimidating but I have fears too.  True, I am older, but I also have less time to make mistakes.  I would hate for either of us to be board of the other; but as we all know there are no guarantees.  I have an open mind.  I look forward to hearing from you if you choose to write me back.  I hope you do. J